Family members who take primary responsibility for the Care of the aging adult often find very quickly they are overwhelmed. Not only by the ever increasing needs of their parent but by the challenge of finding appropriate and affordable support services when they need them.
There are basically two tiers of services for older adults. Private Pay and Medicaid.
At this time Medicaid offers very little financial help for older adults living in their own home or in a community setting: assisted living, adult foster care..
I will address help for low income individuals in a future blog posting.
The Truth about Aging in Place
Most of us prefer to imagine that we will manage to stay in our own homes through the end of our lives. The truth is that unless we are independently wealthy, extraordinarily healthy and content to spend many hours alone. Living on our own may become financially unfeasible, medically unadvisable and socially undesirable.
Additionally, responsible parties must manage two households in addition to arranging support services.
Assisted Living Facilities are often unlicensed settings. There are no regulations to assure that the occupants are being overseen in their daily activities The are considered independent, living in an apartments with some extra services, Meals, Housekeeping, Laundry and such may be included. But personal care and supervision are generally not.
Of course it can be arranged (purchased). Generally their is an agency in house that can be contracted to dispense medication, assist with bathing, dressing, grooming etc..
Rent for these places are quite high add the cost of daily care and the arrangement quickly becomes unsustainable.
While an assisted living apartment may be ideal for a time, it may be necessary to move your loved one into a setting that includes personal care in the future.
Large Corporate Facilities They seem to be popping up everywhere. Beautiful buildings and grounds. Housing a hundred or more older adults in one place. Many offer private rooms with private bathrooms. They boast many amenities. Gyms, art rooms, libraries gardens and the like. The price for the facilities is jaw dropping. $3000-$4500 per month.
The average retiree is forced to liquidate their assets in order to afford this type of arrangement.. If they outlive their cash they will need to move out into a care facility that falls within their monthly income.
Community Homes- Adult Foster Care Foster care homes are licensed and regulated by the state to provide room and board, laundry, housekeeping, medication management. They also provide supervision and assistance with daily activities. Private Pay Rates in Lapeer County range from $1300-$3000.
Here is a link to a searchable map for adult foster care homes in your area.
Each home's page will provide you with basic information and help you narrow your search. Number of Beds, Special Population (Aged, Developmental Disability, Mentally Ill). And at the bottom Special Investigations resulting in Substantiated Complaints.
When Shopping for the right home for your loved one bear in mind that each move will result in some degree of trauma for them. It is hard to adjust to a new environment for any of us. But for the elderly it is especially difficult. Transfers can have serious repercussions for the adult's physical and mental health. Keep moves to a minimum, hopefully only once.
The older folks among us are no doubt winners at the game of life. No matter what has been thrown at them they have persisted-and survived.
Our culture places much value on personal autonomy and
independence. When old age arrives it may rob us of both.
Old age is a difficult time in our human existence. It is the time of failing bodies and often minds.
Family members and friends will often assume the role of caretaker when the older person begins having difficulty. Time goes by and the older adults needs are can overwhelm their helpers. When is it time to consider a senior apartment, outside help? Assisted Living?
- Confusion. Are there times when you struggle to make sense of what they are saying. What they are doing.
- Depression What sort of mood do you generally find them in? Have they lost interest in favored activities?
- Are the barriers and physical hazards (ie stairs)
- Numerous falls/unexplained injuries
- Check the Refrigerator! Is there a safe supply of food? Are things spoiling?
- Check medications. Are they being refilled? Taken as directed?
- Are they managing incontinence issues? Strong urine odor. layers on bed
- Is the home unclean? Falling into disrepair?
- Is mail backing up. Collection notices, calls?
- Are funds disappearing? Take a look at the checkbook if you can. Are they keeping track of things?
- Increase in driving accidents/incidents
- Increase in Household incidents/accidents
- Reports of wandering/getting lost
- Disheveled appearance, body odor, wearing soiled clothing
- Missed appointments, events, missing routine social activities.
In the end you must trust your gut. If more than one or two of these things are happening chances are you need to make some new arrangements to assure your loved ones well being.
Next Week; The Elder Care Landscape
We enjoyed a little family fun at Past Tense Orchard.
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Forest Edge Family Home Receives 2012 Best of Hadley Award
Hadley Award Program Honors the Achievement
HADLEY August 2, 2012 --
Forest Edge Family Home has been selected for the 2012 Best of Hadley Award in the Hospices category by the Hadley Award Program.
Each year, the Hadley Award Program identifies companies that we believe have achieved exceptional marketing success in their local community and business category. These are local companies that enhance the positive image of small business through service to their customers and our community. These exceptional companies help make the Hadley area a great place to live, work and play.
Various sources of information were gathered and analyzed to choose the winners in each category. The 2012 Hadley Award Program focuses on quality, not quantity. Winners are determined based on the information gathered both internally by the Hadley Award Program and data provided by third parties.
About Hadley Award Program
The Hadley Award Program is an annual awards program honoring the achievements and accomplishments of local businesses throughout the Hadley area. Recognition is given to those companies that have shown the ability to use their best practices and implemented programs to generate competitive advantages and long-term value.
The Hadley Award Program was established to recognize the best of local businesses in our community. Our organization works exclusively with local business owners, trade groups, professional associations and other business advertising and marketing groups. Our mission is to recognize the small business community’s contributions to the U.S. economy.
Here is the long awaited blog update (TY Rob).
Don't forget to re-set your clocks tonight! Can you believe it? Spring is just around the corner. The winter was so mild I almost feel robbed.
Our annual Easter Egg hunt is tentatively scheduled for Sunday April 7, 1-3 pm All are welcome. Refreshments will be provided.
As Spring approaches we are preparing to resume our building and grounds improvements.
We will be grading the walking path in the coming weeks and are researching different types of surfacing as we hope to make it wheelchair accessible. If anybody has a suggestion please speak up. The entire walk will be just over 1/4 mile. There will be benches placed at various points along for rest and quiet enjoyment of our serene grounds.
We will begin constructing our Memorial Garden in the SE corner of the Lot and we are hoping to also install a gazebo on the SW corner.
Happy Springtime Everyone!
Summer is drawing to a close and as many of you know this has been a very grueling spring and summer for our little home. We have created a parking area, installed a wheelchair ramp, By fall the large pond that graces our view will be completely fenced in We have begun creating what will eventually be a handicap accessible walk around path.
I look back and can scarcely believe we got this far in our first year on this property. I am so grateful for all of the help we have had.
This fall/winter our efforts will move inside. Painting the common area is top of the list. We intend to do the bulk of this work while our residents are sleeping. Over a day or two. There will be no hazard or inconvenience to them during the project.
Annual Fall/Halloween Party will be Saturday October 22, 2011 from 1-4 p.m.
We will be having a ghoulish good time and everyone is welcome to join us.
- Costumes are encouraged but not required.
- Cider and Donuts
William O. - age 88, of Holly and formerly Flint, died Saturday, May 21, 2011 in Hadley, MI at Forest Edge Family Home. Funeral arrangements by Dryer Funeral Home, Holly. Visitation Wednesday May 25, from 4 to 7 p.m. Service Thursday May 26 at 11 a.m. at Dryer Funeral Home in Holly, Rev. Larry Kluck officiating. In lieu of flowers, those wishing may contribute to a Holly High School education fund previously established by the family. Envelopes are available at the funeral home. Bill was a Scots-Irish and Cherokee Nation descendant born in (Madison County) Colbert, GA. on October 22, 1922, the third child and first son of Charlie Eldridge and Minnie Elizabeth (Lawson) Free. He graduated from Colbert HS in 1940. In December 1942 he enlisted in the United States Merchant Marines where he served his country for the remainder of WWII, until honorably discharged in 1946. He earned a Merchant Marine Combat Bar and Silver Star for facing direct enemy action and being forced to abandon a sinking ship (SS Bloody Marsh, July 2, 1943). In New York City he met Jean M. Schelp of Holly, MI and they were married in Holly on March 3, 1945. They raised their family and lived in Flint for 55 years moving to Holly in 2000. In Holly he joined the American Legion Amel Schwartz Post No.149 and the "McDonald's Gang". Bill was a salesman in the paper and shipping box business with a career spanning over 50 years. He was twice named Salesman of the Year by Georgia Pacific and officially retired from GP in the late 1980's. He then began his final career as a sales broker. Those who knew Bill know he was "calling on customers and selling boxes" to the very end. His love of history evolved into coin collecting, genealogy, and preservation of ancestral family photos. William O. Free is survived by his two daughters and son-in-law, Corajean A and Larry D Gregory of Clio and Noralee K. Free of Harrisburg, IL; 5 grandchildren, Carlyn McClelland of IN; Rachel Gillette of MN; Lena Free of IL; Analeah Stamps of VA, and D. Larry Gregory of CN; great-grandchildren, Samuel and Elijah McClelland and "Baby" Gillette who will arrive December 2011; sister, Estell Lloyd of GA; brother, CE Free Jr. (Erma) of FL; sister-in-law, Lois Caryl and special cousin, Beth Dryer, both of Holly. He was preceded in death by his wife of 61 years, Jean M. Free in 2006; father, Charlie Free, 1980; mother Minnie Free and mother-in-law Marion Schelp, 1986; sister Buell Yarbrough, February 2011. Although illness took much of the independence Bill fought so hard to retain, he was cared for lovingly and with dignity by the staff of Forest Edge. To Mary, John, Staci and Jeremy the family extends their deepest gratitude. dryerfuneralhomeholly.com
, Joanne Louise, age 83, died Sunday, July 3, 2011 at the Forest Edge Family Home, Hadley, MI. Funeral Services will be 1:00 p.m. Saturday, July 9, 2011 at the Hill Funeral Home, 11723 S. Saginaw St. Grand Blanc, MI. Interment at Crestwood Cemetery. Visitation will be Thursday and Friday from Noon to 8:00 p.m. and Saturday from Noon to 1:00 p.m. Joanne was born May 15, 1928 to parents Donald and Mable (McAllister) Embury. She was a long time member of Halsey Methodist Church. Joanne loved to swim, fish and garden. She had been very active in the 4-H with her family. She was a former member of the Red Hat Society. Surviving are her children Judy (Dave) Barber of Grand Blanc, MI, Phil Alward of Fenton, MI, Dan (Debi) Alward of Grand Blanc, MI; grandchildren Matt Alward, Missy Alward, Nick Barber, Amanda Barber, Mike Alward, Adam Alward; three great-grandsons and one great-grand daughter. Preceded in death by husband Donald, Jan 1, 1980 and special friend Bernie Mineders. In leiu of flowers donations may be made to Halsey Methodist Church or Forest Edge Family Home. The family would like to extend a special thanks to John and Mary Dunn at Forest Edge Family Home. Condolences may be left on-line at www.hillfh.com
What a week this has been. We had our licensing renewal inspection yesterday. We are in full compliance. Now licensed for 6 beds and barrier free. New front pictures coming soon!